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I'm cutting myself. Do you know why? Because nothing else will help me.
Anonymous

I know. It’s ok. I’ve been there. You’re feeling like it’s the only thing in your life that you can control, it’s a release, and once you start it’s hard to stop. It’s a way to get your feelings out and it’s a distraction from everything else. But it doesn’t have to be that way if you don’t want it to. Those scars will stay with you for a long time. I kind of hate my scars because they’ll be there when I have children. It sounds strange but it’s true. My kids will trace their fingers across that scar on my leg and ask me what it was from. What will I tell them? That’s what I think about whenever I feel like I need to cut myself. I think about the future and how those scars will continue to hurt, years after they’ve healed. It reminds me that there is more to life than right now, and your body will be with you for the rest of your life. Next time you feel the urge to cut, think about that. What other ways can you hurt yourself that will give you the same satisfaction, without leaving scars? There isn’t any other way. Not like cutting. So you have to find another way to let your feelings out, another way to distract yourself. Because you will regret making all those scars when you’re older. Get a piece of wood and cut that. That’s something I find that’s helped my addiction. It gets out a lot of anger and it also just satisfies that feeling you get where you just want to cut something. But it won’t hurt you and it won’t leave marks on your body. You can throw away the wood, you don’t have to wear it for the rest of your life. Paint, write, draw, play music anything that will distract you as well as giving you an emotional outlet. If it’s attention that you want, and we don’t like to admit it but sometimes everyone wants some attention and we want to know that some people  care. Sometimes we just need someone else to know that we’re hurting. Find a friend or family member you trust and love, and tell them what’s hurting. Maybe you don’t even need to say anything, just cry. If they love you and care about you, they’ll be there for you and they’ll want you to be happy. Avoid things that might trigger you. If you follow blogs that post pictures of self inflicted cutting and stuff, just unfollow them. I find that whenever I happen to see any photos like that, it makes me want to cut. So I avoid looking at them. It’s really hard to stop cutting, and sometimes you might slip up. But after a while the feelings don’t come as often and you learn new ways to deal with your problems. Maybe you need to talk to a psychotherapist or counsellor. I have the feeling that you want to stop cutting, which is why I’ve replied like this. Usually when I get messages from people telling me that they cut or they feel suicidal, they’ve decided to make some kind of process to recover, either consciously or subconsciously, because they’ve told someone, admitted it, and thats the first step. 

You can do anything you put your mind to. I care about you and I’m here for you, and I’m not the only one. You’re stronger than you think. Stay safe, and just take little steps to build a better life for yourself. Because being stuck in a world of depression, self hatred and self harm is no way to live. You can be happy, successful, and you can get out there and do everything or anything. There is a bright future ahead of you, you just need to want it. That’s all. 

I’m only saying this one more time.

No, putting down skinny girls is not ok. Even if they do look “anorexic” or have the shape of a “7 year old boy”, that does not mean that they are in fact anorexic. A lot of girls are naturally really thin, even if they eat a LOT. That does not, in any way, warrant you to put them down, call them names, treat them like crap. Because they’re people too, and they still have the ability to have low self esteem, they can still feel bad about themselves and they’re not prone to bullying or weight discrimination. 

I feel like these days people don’t realize that making fun of a skinny girl for her weight is just as bad as making fun of a bigger person for their weight. Making fun of anyone because of their weight is not ok. 

Sure, some girls go too far with weight loss and actually are anorexic, but even then, you should NOT talk badly of them for it. Yes, in the case that they have anorexia and are very underweight aren’t healthy, but neither is a fat woman. Both are just as unhealthy, both are at risk of developing heart disease, and other health problems. They have their differences but they both deserve the same respect. I always see so many posts praising big woman, encouraging them to be happy with their body, even IF they are stuffing themselves with junk food and have no disregard for their health. But you people wouldn’t praise an (unhealthy) anorexic/eating disordered woman, encouraging them to be happy, and confident, even if they have no disregard for their health, would you? No, you’d say she looks gross, skeletal and “no boy would ever be attracted to you.”. 

When will people realize that weight descimination can go both ways? Not only that, but your judgment of woman and your opinions should be based on her health, happiness and personality.

on weekends my boyfriend drinks beer and smokes almost constantly. I worry about his health. Is there ANYTHING I can do? I haven't said anything to him about it, except for agreeing with him when he mentions quitting.
Anonymous

You should sit down with him and have a serious talk about it. Make sure he knows you’re also just worried about the effects this may have on him. Drinking beer is fine unless you abuse it. It has quite a few calories but apart from that, it’s a pretty mild alcohol. Drinking spirits is much worse. But if your boyfriend is consuming, say, more than 6 beers at a time, then it gets bad for your health. But it depends on his weight and alcohol tolerance too. If he’s getting off his face every weekend, that’s really bad, not just for his health but his safety and well-being. But if he’s not binge drinking, the beer isn’t a problem compared to the smoking, and he needs to quit smoking. It’s not only very bad for his health but hard on his wallet. In my country, a standpoint the ministry of health takes on convincing people to stop smoking, is the money. If you smoke a pack a day, you spend over $100 a week on smokes, at least. So if you quit, you suddenly have a lot more money you can spend on much better things. Not only that you have more time, you don’t depend on it and you feel a lot better physically. You also increase your life expectancy by about 10 years. If you use things such as patches, nicotine gum or medication you’re three times more likely to quit.

Just talk to him about it, but don’t be too full on, and be relaxed, but direct. Do it where there’s no distractions like tv or the internet etc, just you two face to face, this way he will listen to you. If you want to get into body language, have “open” body language, don’t cross your legs or fold your arms, don’t clench your fists, keep your hands open and if you can do it naturally have your palms facing up. This will stop him getting any hostile vibes, he will know you’re sharing all your feelings and he will listen to you and take in a lot more information.

I hope this helps :) <3

I hate it when white girls use fake tan and dark girls (Asian or other) use skin bleach. I guess it’s a form of wanting what you don’t have, and the desire to be different and therefore beautiful. But you should just be happy with your natural beauty, because there is no substitute for that. Real beauty is being happy in the body you were born into.

1 step to beautiful eyes!

A lot of us know about the cucumber method. Putting slices of cucumber on your eyes is said to reduce puffiness and redness. 

The ironic thing is, cucumber doesn’t actually have any benefits except that it’s cold! So using anything cold on your eyes does the same thing. Things such as chilled apples or soda cans are great because they are round so fit over your eyes easier. If you want something that will stay there by itself, put on a few slices of chilled eggplant. It has the same benefits as cucumber, but it’s a lot dryer so won’t leave residue. Not only do these methods decrease puffiness and improve the appearance of your eyes, but it’s wonderfully relaxing :)

Whiter teeth, the natural, and cost friendly way!

A lot of us want whiter teeth but can’t afford it, and whitening tooth paste is not that affective. Here’s a simple remedy you can do at home, for little to no cost.

  1. Wet your tooth brush with water, then dip your tooth brush in a dish of baking soda. (Make sure it’s baking soda, not baking powder!)  so the bristles are white. Brush your teeth with the baking soda for 2 minutes, spit if necessary. 
  2. Spit, and rinse your mouth with clean water. Baking soda shouldn’t be left in the mouth for long periods of time. 
  3. Use this method 1-2 times a week, and no more. Using this method frequently can damage your teeth. Once you have noticed a difference and are happy, stop using this method. Also, don’t use this method every week as you can damage your enamel.  

Do not use this method if you have braces or a permanent retainer. 
If there is a tingling or burning sensation in your mouth, stop using this method.

Brushing your teeth twice a day, flossing your teeth and using mouth wash is important for maintaining white teeth. After all, your smile is your best accessory! 

How to make sex in a cup!

Grab a fucking mango, put that shit in the blender. Pour in some mother-fucking yoghurt and blend the shit out of that those god-like ingredients. Cut up a fucking strawberry and put it on top. Pour that in a glass and drink that shit like it’s free. 

Ladies and gentlemen, there we have a mango smoothie.